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Leslie Posted at 21:29 on Sun, 09/18/2011
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 Has anyone here been through a bad break-up while they were in the process of adopting a child or after they already had completed the whole process? How did that affect your decision and the child? This has been on my mind because I was with a guy that I thought was going to be with me forever and then things suddenly changed. I can't imagine if that would have happened and we had a child.

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 This is something I've

SimplyMe Posted at 21:11 on Mon, 09/19/2011

 This is something I've thought about a lot. Breakup are really hard and that's why I think it's very important to wait it out and really get to know yourself and the person you're with before bringing a child in the mix. I'm single by the way..

 Sadly, this is something

MrMan Posted at 00:56 on Wed, 09/21/2011

 Sadly, this is something many people experience nowadays. It seems like everyone is always breaking up (not saying you were at fault in any way) because there are things being hidden or not enough communication. I wish people could be more open and honest not only with themselves but with each other to avoid putting kids through break ups.

 This hasn't happened to me

Amy Posted at 22:11 on Mon, 09/26/2011

 This hasn't happened to me and I'm working on my relationship first and foremost before we decide to adopt a child. I want to bring a child into a happy home that is stable and consistent. This is why I'm giving us plenty of time to make sure we're on the same page :)

 You know, I think you can

Zoey Posted at 03:23 on Wed, 09/28/2011

 You know, I think you can look at that situation as a learning experience. You could have been with him while you tried to adopt but you weren't. I'm guessing you learned a lot from it.
It breaks my heart to see children with broken homes. I'm sure it's the last thing parents want but for whatever reason, so many relationships don't work out. Try to think of it as a learning experience instead of something bad. I'm sure now you'll know the signs and won't date someone like him again. (I don't know your whole story so it's hard to say...)