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Unable to Keep Child

Lovely Posted at 21:07 on Thu, 09/29/2011
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I've been thinking a lot lately what it must feel like to have to get rid of a child you gave birth to. I imagine there are so many different cases; maybe the mother isn't stable enough at the time (maybe because of drugs, financial situation etc) or she just isn't ready to have a child and is scared.
Has anyone here been through that? It breaks my heart to think how much that must eat away at someone over the years... 

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 I can't even imagine. I've

Leslie Posted at 01:08 on Tue, 10/04/2011

 I can't even imagine. I've heard stories of people who later wanted their children back when they had their lives more under control. That would be such a tough spot to be in. A huge part of me would want to give in to their wish, while another part wouldn't want to confuse the child by doing so.

 I haven't been through

Amy Posted at 00:49 on Fri, 10/07/2011

 I haven't been through this and I can't even imagine how terrible that would feel. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason though, so I would try to stay as positive as I could if this were to ever happen to me. Easier said than done, I know..

 I've been through this,

NewMommy Posted at 18:48 on Thu, 10/13/2011

 I've been through this, but not as the woman who had to give her child away. I was the person who rescued a little girl from a terrible situation. I have always believed that people are born good and that sometimes they just get lost along the way. This whole experience really tested my faith and personal beliefs because the baby girl I adopted was being abused. I'm very happy she's out of that situation but at the same time, I worry that as she gets older, she'll want to meet her birth parents and after everything that's been done to her... it terrifies me. I hope their lives turn around and they can be better people.

 I can't even begin to

Amy Posted at 19:54 on Tue, 10/18/2011

 I can't even begin to imagine how rough this whole situation must have been on you. I think you're extremely brave for doing what you did. Your child is going to have a much better life now because of you :) I think you'll find the answers and know what to do when the time comes as far as her wanting to know who her parents were. Sounds like you've got a great head on your shoulders.