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"You're not my dad!"

MrMan Posted at 20:04 on Mon, 07/25/2011
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For those of you who've been through something like this, how do you deal? I've been thinking about a lot of things lately and situations that I may encounter. I think this is the one that worries me most. How do you get an adopted child to respect you when you're not technically their parent in their eyes. I'm sure I won't have to worry about this until the teenage years but I still want to be prepared lol. 

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 This is something I'm sure

NewMommy Posted at 18:02 on Sat, 07/30/2011

 This is something I'm sure most of us worry about all the time. It's hard knowing you're not their "real" parent. All you can really do is gain their respect, love and trust by being the best parent you can be. Every child is going to lash out from time to time but I'm sure we'll all get through it :)

 I don't think there's any

Lovely Posted at 06:38 on Tue, 08/02/2011

 I don't think there's any difference between a child you adopt and one who is your own. The only difference is, when the child is yours they would word it differently... "I wish you weren't my dad." All parents have to deal with this type of thing and it must be dealt with the same way. You just have to demand their respect and set boundaries early on in your child's life :) Easier said than done, I know.

 I think you just have to

Johnathen Posted at 00:15 on Fri, 09/02/2011

 I think you just have to show them that a parent doesn't have to be biological. Anyone can be your parent because they are the person who teaches you and who's helped shaped you into the person you are today. Many people go there whole lives without parents even when they have biological ones. It's just one of those things a child will have to learn in time.. and it may not be easy. I'm going to be adopting a baby so I don't see this coming up... at least I hope not. That would break my heart.

 I don't think this is

Mom2B Posted at 18:29 on Sun, 09/04/2011

 I don't think this is something you should worry about. Honestly, even biological children can do things like this. Well, not worded in the same way but they can get angry and say they wish they had a 'cooler' parent or so forth. I think taking one day at a time and gaining their respect is all you can do. You'll get through it! :) I promise.